Moving is tough- especially when you’re a three year old and don’t understand the concepts of time or distance. I knew that once fall hit & our hectic travel schedule ceased we’d start to feel that we really have moved. Well, this week it feels like we have moved.
I’ve moved a few times in my life throughout high school, college and adulthood. However, I’ve never moved with a child before. At the beginning of the summer Reuben was super-excited to be in Cleveland (and who wouldn’t be btw!;) For the last week he’s been asking me every day “can we go over to Ransoms house? Can we go see Silas?” (his friend and cousin) Everyday I have to explain to him that we can’t go see them because they live in Michigan & that’s far away now. It really stinks
It takes time to develop friendships and networks, I miss my friends and the familiarity of being able to drive down streets without wondering “I wonder where this street goes and if it will lead to where I hope to end up!” (thankyou iPhone). I knew those things would be difficult but I didn’t expect how sad I’d feel for my son that he misses his friends.
Reuben has also come up with an imaginary friend “melody.” I had no idea where this name came from since we only have one friend Melodie and don’t see her very often. Dave clued me in that there was a dog in the Marmaduke movie named Melodie. We’ll see if Melodie persists- but she also misses Reuben’s friends. As we were driving home the other day he was telling me about “princess melodie” and that she wanted to go to Ransom’s house this year. I explained that yes, likely this year we would get to go see Ransom. “Melodie thinks that’s a splendid idea!” Reuben exclaimed, expecting that I’d turn the car around and hop on the highway. Again, the concepts of time and distance are lost on a toddler.
Thankfully he’s started preschool and I hope he’ll make some good friends there. For the time being he has Melodie and a mama that’s trying to care for his little lonely heart. Other mama’s that have moved- how have you helped your kids cope with loneliness and the transition time where they don’t yet have any friends? I’d love your advice and your prayers!